The Parenting Effect.

by John Van Dyke

Parents shape children. Good or bad, parenting creates behavior, gives permission, teaches, leads by example. We talk about bullying with children and the impact that has on the child. This happens in schools, and in neighborhoods and communities. We talk about values, self worth, behavior, how to deflate a bully. The psychological effect. It all starts with childhood.

Leaders also shape people. It is not unlike parents teaching their children. Adults, when being taught certain things, are taught at a child level, to easily make a point and for retention. There is a certain trust that goes with leaders of all kinds, those assumed to have knowledge, and are granted authority, power, by us, on a psychological and emotional level. We accept much of what they say.

Corporations, business and financial leaders have done this, politicians have done this, religious leaders have done this. They have the power to lead, to create a culture, or a cult. They tell us what is right, what is wrong, how to do things, create rewards for behavior. They ask us to follow, for our trust, and faithfulness, and some ask for loyalty. They give permission for our actions, which they may suggest or guide. Not unlike our parents, they can have a powerful influence on us.

The settings are different. Parents create a home for us, a safe place, a place to thrive and grow, and become who we are. Corporations and companies create a shared environment and symbols for us to identify with, and prosper in. Religious leaders want us to be part of their flock, and give us sermons on life and how we should live it, as it is written somewhere. Political leaders, sometimes called lawmakers, govern over bodies of people, set laws, and make decisions for us. They are the Federal government, down to the most local communities. They all have a lot to do with our feeling of being safe, being taken care of, belonging, and our beliefs. There is a lot of responsibility and power, and control with all of these.

We don’t chose our parents, but all the others we do.